Life is dull, life is boring, monotonous life is so boring and so on is the usual cribbing of many in life. But ultimately one thing remains unanswered there are so many people on this earth who feel is life evergreen and vibrant and goes on and on. They even enjoy their life to max and they are never bothered about the disgusting thinking of dull life. Why this dichotomy in life? Have you ever thought about this? If not think today and think about this to change the way you live your life.
I have undergone these many a times but I discovered that only one thing that changes the life is "YOU" yes that is you nobody else.
You may be thinking what is this, how can this be possible and many more things you think as possibilities. But fact remains same it is YOU who matters no body else. Because its your life and only you can think about your self from your angle everyone else think about you in their angle rather than from yours so its you who matters not anyone else, not even your wife or parents or kids.
Don't ask me that "it means wife/ husband, parents, kids are of no consequence". Who told that they are of no consequence in your life, they are all having their own limits and so they have limited effect on you. You life depends on how "YOU" take them rather than what they have done to YOU.
So if you want life to be vibrant, joyful, lively then change your mind set and see difference in your life. Wait for me in next post, I will show you how simple it is to change the mind set and become happier than what you are.
Sunday, April 29, 2007
Thursday, April 26, 2007
How to maximize time and energy by redefining friendship?
Yes last time I spoke about the friendship in a negative aspect, but this time I am talking to you in an positive aspect of the same topic. You may be one of them who have lot of friends and using your time to keep up your friendship intact by doing one or the other thing for them. But have you ever thought how much time you are using to keep up your friendship? Do you thing the amount of time and energy (I an not even talking about money) spent on this is worth or you don't know?
Then see here how you can maximize the things and save much more time and energy.
You have to first take a notepad and pen/ pencil of noting purpose. List your friends in your first column. Next column make a point to list number of hours you use for the friends against each name of first column. Third column list the important events you missed for friend or not committing your time family at the same time. Now the important column, list out the friendship motto you have with the friend you spend time.
Just four columns to analyze but you make a fifth column for action. What is this action? This is the most important aspect of this whole exercise. Once you have written the list of friends and the time spent against each and loss or potential loss you had due the same, you have to decide first the loss and spent time are worth what it is or a loss.
Once you decide that has been a loss then this is time for redefining your friendship. How to redefine friendship? Its easy and at the same time difficult. Say you have a so called friend at office and you think that he or she is essential for you work to go smoothly, so made a friendship and spending time. But now you decide whether is the person who is the cause for the loss really worth the time you have spent. Because most of the times you work is specified and limited by law and rules of any organization, but we think that we have been burdened so takes others help and then we think they are essential for our work. In other words first redefine your work and cut the helps you require and make a trial to work independently. If you succeed to do it then you don't require help so it becomes easy to you redefine the friendship and more fruitful days are spent with the friends worth your time, most important friends will be your family members. Think about this and take action and enjoy more time with your true friends.
See you soon with more experience and helpful tips.
Then see here how you can maximize the things and save much more time and energy.
You have to first take a notepad and pen/ pencil of noting purpose. List your friends in your first column. Next column make a point to list number of hours you use for the friends against each name of first column. Third column list the important events you missed for friend or not committing your time family at the same time. Now the important column, list out the friendship motto you have with the friend you spend time.
Just four columns to analyze but you make a fifth column for action. What is this action? This is the most important aspect of this whole exercise. Once you have written the list of friends and the time spent against each and loss or potential loss you had due the same, you have to decide first the loss and spent time are worth what it is or a loss.
Once you decide that has been a loss then this is time for redefining your friendship. How to redefine friendship? Its easy and at the same time difficult. Say you have a so called friend at office and you think that he or she is essential for you work to go smoothly, so made a friendship and spending time. But now you decide whether is the person who is the cause for the loss really worth the time you have spent. Because most of the times you work is specified and limited by law and rules of any organization, but we think that we have been burdened so takes others help and then we think they are essential for our work. In other words first redefine your work and cut the helps you require and make a trial to work independently. If you succeed to do it then you don't require help so it becomes easy to you redefine the friendship and more fruitful days are spent with the friends worth your time, most important friends will be your family members. Think about this and take action and enjoy more time with your true friends.
See you soon with more experience and helpful tips.
Wednesday, April 18, 2007
Why do we want to make friends?
Why do we want to make friends?
"What idiotic question", if we think so then we are fools, why you know? Because we don't know actually why we are making friendship. This is an absolute truth which most of us deny. If you analyze the friendships you are having then it looks totally different than what you are managing it as.
I can prove this to you repeatedly, in your life.
Don't think that I am speaking about some rubbish topic here; this is one of the most important aspect of life. This can save lot of energy and time for you if you can apply it from today. To start with I would like to tell you how we are not making correct friends, because we don't know why we are making friends.
See a boy making a friendship with a girl who is his neighbor or classmate has a basic motto that is she is near to him so interaction is almost daily basis so likes keeping the communication free so that while expressing he can express freely. But this may not be 100% true. This as a boy or as a girl you might have experienced. Here I am not telling that every have a friendship going have a second motto which is unwarranted, but fact is this friendship with subconscious motto going to cost you time and energy more that what is required until unless you consciously kill the subconscious motto of friendship.
If some body is telling that they think friendship is all about accepting "a friend as he or she is" rather than asking for modification, then I call it as bullshit as that will be an ideal situation which you can see hardly on this mother earth.
Wait for my next post where I would like to tell you how to maximize time and energy by redefining the friendship. Till then good-bye.
"What idiotic question", if we think so then we are fools, why you know? Because we don't know actually why we are making friendship. This is an absolute truth which most of us deny. If you analyze the friendships you are having then it looks totally different than what you are managing it as.
I can prove this to you repeatedly, in your life.
Don't think that I am speaking about some rubbish topic here; this is one of the most important aspect of life. This can save lot of energy and time for you if you can apply it from today. To start with I would like to tell you how we are not making correct friends, because we don't know why we are making friends.
See a boy making a friendship with a girl who is his neighbor or classmate has a basic motto that is she is near to him so interaction is almost daily basis so likes keeping the communication free so that while expressing he can express freely. But this may not be 100% true. This as a boy or as a girl you might have experienced. Here I am not telling that every have a friendship going have a second motto which is unwarranted, but fact is this friendship with subconscious motto going to cost you time and energy more that what is required until unless you consciously kill the subconscious motto of friendship.
If some body is telling that they think friendship is all about accepting "a friend as he or she is" rather than asking for modification, then I call it as bullshit as that will be an ideal situation which you can see hardly on this mother earth.
Wait for my next post where I would like to tell you how to maximize time and energy by redefining the friendship. Till then good-bye.
Saturday, April 7, 2007
Why your Boss is under more stress than YOU?
Have you ever thought, why your boss is under more stress than you? Asnwer may be clear to most of us who works for some one.
We think the work given to us is only for completing the task, but boss thinks that you have been given task to complete it and the same has to be used by him for presentation in front of others to whom he is answerable.
Now just disect the 2nd para.
See you worked, you understand the work, you understand the importance, you can start in between also. But the same cannot be done by your boss, means he cannot master because he was not involved in the work done, he need to study more than you to deliver at the level you deliver. Means to present a project o work done by you is difficult for other to present than its for you.
In other words it means that senior of your boss if he or she doen't get themselves involved in work told you, then they will have bad time on filed with this work. So will be under more stress.
Moral of the story is - Get involved in the work and get less stress. Its applicable to all, as senior you will have junior today or tommorow. So don't allow the stress to kill you get involved and get rid of stress. Good Luck
We think the work given to us is only for completing the task, but boss thinks that you have been given task to complete it and the same has to be used by him for presentation in front of others to whom he is answerable.
Now just disect the 2nd para.
See you worked, you understand the work, you understand the importance, you can start in between also. But the same cannot be done by your boss, means he cannot master because he was not involved in the work done, he need to study more than you to deliver at the level you deliver. Means to present a project o work done by you is difficult for other to present than its for you.
In other words it means that senior of your boss if he or she doen't get themselves involved in work told you, then they will have bad time on filed with this work. So will be under more stress.
Moral of the story is - Get involved in the work and get less stress. Its applicable to all, as senior you will have junior today or tommorow. So don't allow the stress to kill you get involved and get rid of stress. Good Luck
Wednesday, April 4, 2007
How to maximise happiness by killing gender Bias?
Why a Lady cannotbe = Gentleman? I asked this question to many and recived varied answers. But when I compare my views 15 years back and today its a total contrast, even though I remained on the happier side throughout. My experience 15 years back was different compared to today. I am affraid that this post may go very long (I will try to sat as cripsy as possible).
Lady cannotbe = Gentleman
just see how the words are written, I could have written it as lady = gentleman, true or false. But I have not written the statement with a ? to ignite the self within you. You may be lady or gentleman but will have your own opinion for this question, but my intention is to say what I felt rather then creating a contraversy.
Here we go "how to maximize happiness by Killing gender bias"
So many time a male think he is superior to female by mere fact that he has more musculature because of testosterone hormone. Each and every gov tries to prove both are equal,but fails at grassroot level because of the teachings a child recieve from his or her elders , teachers, seniors and off course the great society. Who ever may claim anything there is still a stigma of gender bias left over in most of the societies., it may be varing in the level of bias.
Why be do so?
May be because we are seeing ans learning things which are shown to us and then try to analyse the situation on what we learn rather than aneutral analysing system. Don't ask me here that "means all decisions are biased due to what we learnt in past". In one way thats the fact, so if with the thngs learnt in past acts an catalyst to your thinking force to move you towards the neutral position of gender bias then you can think you learnt and learning tha correct things.
I will bore you, just imagine you have 3 collegues how are ladies in a working station where ten people work. You are a male, so effectively (if you remain neutral) you have 6 on male side and three on female side. If you are able to reciprocate to male as a friend without love and lust then you have 66% on your side, and if you behave same with ladies then you have 99 to 100% on your side, which is very unlikely. So be neutral in treating people as far as gender is considered, then you will hardly have any blocks or rough surface in working station and that gives to so much time to operate or work at working station you will hardly require extra time to finish your job. Once you finished your job then you ahve got good amount of time to spend with family and friends.
If you follow the zero gender bias even at home and public places you will be leveraging many things that make you happier and more productive than ever. Think about it before doing gender bias again.
Thanks for reading, I know it may not be very clear what I expressed here but if you use your common sense to analyse the fact with neutral mind you will understand what I meant.
Lady cannotbe = Gentleman
just see how the words are written, I could have written it as lady = gentleman, true or false. But I have not written the statement with a ? to ignite the self within you. You may be lady or gentleman but will have your own opinion for this question, but my intention is to say what I felt rather then creating a contraversy.
Here we go "how to maximize happiness by Killing gender bias"
So many time a male think he is superior to female by mere fact that he has more musculature because of testosterone hormone. Each and every gov tries to prove both are equal,but fails at grassroot level because of the teachings a child recieve from his or her elders , teachers, seniors and off course the great society. Who ever may claim anything there is still a stigma of gender bias left over in most of the societies., it may be varing in the level of bias.
Why be do so?
May be because we are seeing ans learning things which are shown to us and then try to analyse the situation on what we learn rather than aneutral analysing system. Don't ask me here that "means all decisions are biased due to what we learnt in past". In one way thats the fact, so if with the thngs learnt in past acts an catalyst to your thinking force to move you towards the neutral position of gender bias then you can think you learnt and learning tha correct things.
I will bore you, just imagine you have 3 collegues how are ladies in a working station where ten people work. You are a male, so effectively (if you remain neutral) you have 6 on male side and three on female side. If you are able to reciprocate to male as a friend without love and lust then you have 66% on your side, and if you behave same with ladies then you have 99 to 100% on your side, which is very unlikely. So be neutral in treating people as far as gender is considered, then you will hardly have any blocks or rough surface in working station and that gives to so much time to operate or work at working station you will hardly require extra time to finish your job. Once you finished your job then you ahve got good amount of time to spend with family and friends.
If you follow the zero gender bias even at home and public places you will be leveraging many things that make you happier and more productive than ever. Think about it before doing gender bias again.
Thanks for reading, I know it may not be very clear what I expressed here but if you use your common sense to analyse the fact with neutral mind you will understand what I meant.
Monday, April 2, 2007
Short Cut to success
Hi
Today its my second post on my blog. Reason being I am free for posting today. I would like to share one important post on one of my favorite blogs. In the post author wrote it as "30 day to success", on his blog.
This is one of the good posts I have ever read. Why you know? because when ever you want to inculcate a new habbit for good then just follow the steps mentioned in that post then you will understand the importance.
You may after reading the post feel, there are so many things that not for your society or culture - how to go about it? easiest way is use yourself and make a notes first.
How to make notes ?
Take a notepad (paper or virtual)
marker
make two columns
first column write what ever told on the blog link I have given above
secondcolumn know use your experience and select the best alternate
So start acting as per second column
You done it
Good Luck
Today its my second post on my blog. Reason being I am free for posting today. I would like to share one important post on one of my favorite blogs. In the post author wrote it as "30 day to success", on his blog.
This is one of the good posts I have ever read. Why you know? because when ever you want to inculcate a new habbit for good then just follow the steps mentioned in that post then you will understand the importance.
You may after reading the post feel, there are so many things that not for your society or culture - how to go about it? easiest way is use yourself and make a notes first.
How to make notes ?
Take a notepad (paper or virtual)
marker
make two columns
first column write what ever told on the blog link I have given above
secondcolumn know use your experience and select the best alternate
So start acting as per second column
You done it
Good Luck
Why do we affraid to dream big?
Other I was telling about "why we fear to fail?" on this blog, today I want to tell about "why we fear to dream big?", it may not be a big issue at all for most of us. You know why, we never felt dreaming big is an issue of importance. We fail to dream high and big, because we don't want to spoil our routine activites.
Just think an example today you are eraning a salary of 20000 bucks, but you want 30000 bucks per month. To achieve it atleast once you should dream what is all about then only you will be able take on the task to increase your salary.
When you don't dream you will not have any motivation and once you don't have motivation you will not be able to carryout your plans in the most crisis full situation. So complete your requirement / dream you need motivation, work ethic and carrying on dreams even in toughest times. So untill you dream big you will never be able to carry on & on. If you need to improve your life first dream it and then plan and execution of the plan.
I hope now you will be able to dream easily and complete it. Good Luck
Just think an example today you are eraning a salary of 20000 bucks, but you want 30000 bucks per month. To achieve it atleast once you should dream what is all about then only you will be able take on the task to increase your salary.
When you don't dream you will not have any motivation and once you don't have motivation you will not be able to carryout your plans in the most crisis full situation. So complete your requirement / dream you need motivation, work ethic and carrying on dreams even in toughest times. So untill you dream big you will never be able to carry on & on. If you need to improve your life first dream it and then plan and execution of the plan.
I hope now you will be able to dream easily and complete it. Good Luck
Sunday, April 1, 2007
April Fool's Day - How it can help you live better
First let me tell you if you need details about this then go here
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/April_Fools'_Day . As my intention is not to reinvent the wheel I have shown you the reliable site to learn in detail about april fool's day.
Why I am choosing this topic today?
Just think how it works, you can make fool out anyone today but you still prefer to limit yourself to one you know or one you love. Why its so?
See you have things behind it one it may hurt the person who is getting fooled or it may hit the wrong corner and you may have to face music. There may be many but because this two main reason we limit ourselves to our dear ones.
Means you are comfortable with the one you fooled - make point this person can be of help for you in your crisis. Second point if you are foolinf some one means you are ready to get fooled, in other words you are filled with sportive nature. SO you can take on many insults without any problems or with simple support.
Go and fool some one today and find your reliable friend today & develop sportive spirit to live happily. Good Luck
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/April_Fools'_Day . As my intention is not to reinvent the wheel I have shown you the reliable site to learn in detail about april fool's day.
Why I am choosing this topic today?
Just think how it works, you can make fool out anyone today but you still prefer to limit yourself to one you know or one you love. Why its so?
See you have things behind it one it may hurt the person who is getting fooled or it may hit the wrong corner and you may have to face music. There may be many but because this two main reason we limit ourselves to our dear ones.
Means you are comfortable with the one you fooled - make point this person can be of help for you in your crisis. Second point if you are foolinf some one means you are ready to get fooled, in other words you are filled with sportive nature. SO you can take on many insults without any problems or with simple support.
Go and fool some one today and find your reliable friend today & develop sportive spirit to live happily. Good Luck
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