Craving the essential friend and enemy of Human Mankind

Do you have a craving, ... for anything? If you don't have one then I doubt that you have any wishes in your life. If someone doesn’t have craving means she/ he doesn't have a strong desire for the life.

Have you ever thought about this?
Ok if not first let me get it clear for you. See desire is one thing that drives human from inside for any work. But when this desire start working on human involuntarily then it takes the name craving, in other words desire's extreme positive aspect is craving. So anyone having a craving means that he or she is having strong desire for the same.

So this desire or craving can be enemy or friend of human mankind depending up on the desire anyone is having. Example an desire for money can be disastrous at the same time it can be most innovative moment of someone’s life depending on the type of work he or she choose to make money.

That means it can act both ways, depending upon the mode of action or type of action mankind will be affected. Some wise person told, " Desire is the root cause of sorrow", but if you don't have desire then what is your motivational factor? So have good desires or craving and achieve much more than what you think is possible in your lifetime.

You many be worried about bad cravings creeping into you, let me show you how to stop them easily in my next post till then see you bye.

Simple formula to make life happier and vibrant

Can you give me exactly five minutes for reading this, I can show you the simple formula for happier life in less than that five minutes. Yes it takes less than five minutes to understand the simple formula for happier life but implementation of the same may take many more minutes to years depending on YOU.

Life becomes sorrowful or stressful depending what we do or what we think. But same things came give better results or outputs if you are prepared for it. Everyone knows that everyone cannot be prepared for every thing in ones life time, but every one is worried about the outcome of every thing hey come across.

So simple formula for happier life goes this way.

Step one
Stop thinking about the things where you cannot do anything - like rain, sunrise, temp outside your home or office etc or for that matter somebody else's action

Step two
Plan for long term and act for short term - Means plan for few years not for life and act for short terms means days not minutes. Do all your work this way

Step Three
Prepare for the worst outcome and get ready for best outcome. Meaning prepare an alternate plan if your action brings in a worst thing and plan for celebration if you get max out of your action.

Step four
When compromise on your family or personal life for others work until it is life saving or world saving action

Step Five
Never give away every thing to others in anticipation - it is applicable to every aspect of life, let it be money secrets, property, knowledge

Step Six
Prepare for Securing all you have in unfortunate departure - including you dear ones life, your money, your knowledge etc

I am going reveal one of the best and worst friend of mankind in my next post just guess if you can. It will be a surprise

Why your life is so dull?

Life is dull, life is boring, monotonous life is so boring and so on is the usual cribbing of many in life. But ultimately one thing remains unanswered there are so many people on this earth who feel is life evergreen and vibrant and goes on and on. They even enjoy their life to max and they are never bothered about the disgusting thinking of dull life. Why this dichotomy in life? Have you ever thought about this? If not think today and think about this to change the way you live your life.

I have undergone these many a times but I discovered that only one thing that changes the life is "YOU" yes that is you nobody else.

You may be thinking what is this, how can this be possible and many more things you think as possibilities. But fact remains same it is YOU who matters no body else. Because its your life and only you can think about your self from your angle everyone else think about you in their angle rather than from yours so its you who matters not anyone else, not even your wife or parents or kids.

Don't ask me that "it means wife/ husband, parents, kids are of no consequence". Who told that they are of no consequence in your life, they are all having their own limits and so they have limited effect on you. You life depends on how "YOU" take them rather than what they have done to YOU.

So if you want life to be vibrant, joyful, lively then change your mind set and see difference in your life. Wait for me in next post, I will show you how simple it is to change the mind set and become happier than what you are.

How to maximize time and energy by redefining friendship?

Yes last time I spoke about the friendship in a negative aspect, but this time I am talking to you in an positive aspect of the same topic. You may be one of them who have lot of friends and using your time to keep up your friendship intact by doing one or the other thing for them. But have you ever thought how much time you are using to keep up your friendship? Do you thing the amount of time and energy (I an not even talking about money) spent on this is worth or you don't know?

Then see here how you can maximize the things and save much more time and energy.

You have to first take a notepad and pen/ pencil of noting purpose. List your friends in your first column. Next column make a point to list number of hours you use for the friends against each name of first column. Third column list the important events you missed for friend or not committing your time family at the same time. Now the important column, list out the friendship motto you have with the friend you spend time.

Just four columns to analyze but you make a fifth column for action. What is this action? This is the most important aspect of this whole exercise. Once you have written the list of friends and the time spent against each and loss or potential loss you had due the same, you have to decide first the loss and spent time are worth what it is or a loss.

Once you decide that has been a loss then this is time for redefining your friendship. How to redefine friendship? Its easy and at the same time difficult. Say you have a so called friend at office and you think that he or she is essential for you work to go smoothly, so made a friendship and spending time. But now you decide whether is the person who is the cause for the loss really worth the time you have spent. Because most of the times you work is specified and limited by law and rules of any organization, but we think that we have been burdened so takes others help and then we think they are essential for our work. In other words first redefine your work and cut the helps you require and make a trial to work independently. If you succeed to do it then you don't require help so it becomes easy to you redefine the friendship and more fruitful days are spent with the friends worth your time, most important friends will be your family members. Think about this and take action and enjoy more time with your true friends.

See you soon with more experience and helpful tips.

Why do we want to make friends?

Why do we want to make friends?

"What idiotic question", if we think so then we are fools, why you know? Because we don't know actually why we are making friendship. This is an absolute truth which most of us deny. If you analyze the friendships you are having then it looks totally different than what you are managing it as.

I can prove this to you repeatedly, in your life.

Don't think that I am speaking about some rubbish topic here; this is one of the most important aspect of life. This can save lot of energy and time for you if you can apply it from today. To start with I would like to tell you how we are not making correct friends, because we don't know why we are making friends.

See a boy making a friendship with a girl who is his neighbor or classmate has a basic motto that is she is near to him so interaction is almost daily basis so likes keeping the communication free so that while expressing he can express freely. But this may not be 100% true. This as a boy or as a girl you might have experienced. Here I am not telling that every have a friendship going have a second motto which is unwarranted, but fact is this friendship with subconscious motto going to cost you time and energy more that what is required until unless you consciously kill the subconscious motto of friendship.

If some body is telling that they think friendship is all about accepting "a friend as he or she is" rather than asking for modification, then I call it as bullshit as that will be an ideal situation which you can see hardly on this mother earth.

Wait for my next post where I would like to tell you how to maximize time and energy by redefining the friendship. Till then good-bye.

Why your Boss is under more stress than YOU?

Have you ever thought, why your boss is under more stress than you? Asnwer may be clear to most of us who works for some one.

We think the work given to us is only for completing the task, but boss thinks that you have been given task to complete it and the same has to be used by him for presentation in front of others to whom he is answerable.

Now just disect the 2nd para.

See you worked, you understand the work, you understand the importance, you can start in between also. But the same cannot be done by your boss, means he cannot master because he was not involved in the work done, he need to study more than you to deliver at the level you deliver. Means to present a project o work done by you is difficult for other to present than its for you.

In other words it means that senior of your boss if he or she doen't get themselves involved in work told you, then they will have bad time on filed with this work. So will be under more stress.

Moral of the story is - Get involved in the work and get less stress. Its applicable to all, as senior you will have junior today or tommorow. So don't allow the stress to kill you get involved and get rid of stress. Good Luck

How to maximise happiness by killing gender Bias?

Why a Lady cannotbe = Gentleman? I asked this question to many and recived varied answers. But when I compare my views 15 years back and today its a total contrast, even though I remained on the happier side throughout. My experience 15 years back was different compared to today. I am affraid that this post may go very long (I will try to sat as cripsy as possible).

Lady cannotbe = Gentleman

just see how the words are written, I could have written it as lady = gentleman, true or false. But I have not written the statement with a ? to ignite the self within you. You may be lady or gentleman but will have your own opinion for this question, but my intention is to say what I felt rather then creating a contraversy.

Here we go "how to maximize happiness by Killing gender bias"

So many time a male think he is superior to female by mere fact that he has more musculature because of testosterone hormone. Each and every gov tries to prove both are equal,but fails at grassroot level because of the teachings a child recieve from his or her elders , teachers, seniors and off course the great society. Who ever may claim anything there is still a stigma of gender bias left over in most of the societies., it may be varing in the level of bias.

Why be do so?

May be because we are seeing ans learning things which are shown to us and then try to analyse the situation on what we learn rather than aneutral analysing system. Don't ask me here that "means all decisions are biased due to what we learnt in past". In one way thats the fact, so if with the thngs learnt in past acts an catalyst to your thinking force to move you towards the neutral position of gender bias then you can think you learnt and learning tha correct things.

I will bore you, just imagine you have 3 collegues how are ladies in a working station where ten people work. You are a male, so effectively (if you remain neutral) you have 6 on male side and three on female side. If you are able to reciprocate to male as a friend without love and lust then you have 66% on your side, and if you behave same with ladies then you have 99 to 100% on your side, which is very unlikely. So be neutral in treating people as far as gender is considered, then you will hardly have any blocks or rough surface in working station and that gives to so much time to operate or work at working station you will hardly require extra time to finish your job. Once you finished your job then you ahve got good amount of time to spend with family and friends.

If you follow the zero gender bias even at home and public places you will be leveraging many things that make you happier and more productive than ever. Think about it before doing gender bias again.

Thanks for reading, I know it may not be very clear what I expressed here but if you use your common sense to analyse the fact with neutral mind you will understand what I meant.